I would consider myself a serial dater. What is that you ask? Well, it’s someone who is constantly dating because (1) they don’t want to be lonely, (2) they have found someone new and/or better, (3) they literally can’t function without having someone around, or (4) you just kind of click with someone once a relationship is over and it kind of happens where now you are in a new relationship!
For me, I would say it’s number 4. Over the years, I literally haven’t come up for air…. Sorry that’s graphic…not in the way you’re thinking. What I mean is that I haven’t really let myself be single in between dating. I just kind of moved on to the next convenient person (that sounds rude). To clarify I never used the guys, I literally just clicked with someone right away and thought…’what the heck, why not?’
But the past year and a half, I have been single…hold for applause.
This is the first time in a long time that I have been single and it has been freaking awesome. I don’t have to report to anyone. I can sleep on whatever side of the bed I want. I can also eat whatever I feel like. I’m free!
Don’t get me wrong, I miss sleeping next to someone (sometimes, preferably during winter). Oh and I miss someone being there when times are tough. Yea, I have friends but it’s different when you are in a relationship with someone. It’s a different level of emotional support.
For right now, I’m just going to be single…and see how this plays out. I’m not trying to find someone nor am I rushing to get married. If the stuff happens, then it happens.
My point is, being a serial dater, like me, it doesn’t leave you any room to grow as a person. How are you supposed to ever find someone when you don’t even know who you are or what you want? Being independent and single is a choice that I think everyone should make at some point in their life. It really helps you find out more about yourself and what you see in a future husband and/or wife!
Also, for people who have made it this far in the post, I will be doing a giveaway in the next couple of days on my Facebook page! SHhhhhh! So check out my Facebook Page here for more details….soon!