I don’t know why I’ve been talking about relationships so much lately but I feel like I needed to share this.
Have you ever been in a relationship where the guy or girl was very protective? My next question is, How much is too much?
In my previous relationship, there was a few instances where I questioned his “protective” instincts. At first I thought it was an endearing quality that he wanted to protect me or wanted to know where I was, all the time. I thought, “awe that’s cute.” As time passed, I started getting annoyed with the fact that every time he called or I got home, he would ask me where I was and who I was with. My response would be “I just got off work. Where do you think?!” It got to a point where is was constant. He was constantly nagging.
At one point he followed me to work and I saw him sitting outside during the day. I called him to see what he was doing and played like I didn’t know where he was. He said that he was at the store. Two minutes later, I saw him leave. Shortly after that, we broke up, on my terms. I still see him ride by my house here and there, which is another story in itself.
In hindsight, I should have noticed the signs. I really think his actions were a start to what could have been a very destructive relationship and possibly abusive. I’m very lucky that I ended it before it got to that point.
I want to believe that I was strong enough to leave but I know there are others that are not so strong. And it sometimes gets to a point where it’s too late. If someone that is reading this has experienced something similar or worse, you are not alone!